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Kindness has not been forgotten

Despite it being a tough year the world has not forgotten kindness. This has made me smile.  In the South East of England, we have gone into Tier 4 which is a "stay at home" tier. It means a lot of people are going to be alone for Christmas.  However, what I have seen since we have been in tier 4 has brought tears to my eyes. I have seen a woman offer to make Christmas dinners and bring them to people living alone. I have seen women who have said they will give you money to get your gifts to your kids. My landlord has given me a Christmas present. Companies I have seen are helping people in debt.  Organizations who are just sitting and talking to people on their own. Honestly, kindness has not evaporated with the usefulness of the year. This has been a year of hell. Some of this has been brought on ourselves through the way we treat the planet. It has also gone on because of how we treat each other and the way in which we think we are owed something. Kindness is something we

Ask for help

I am writing this as someone who knows how this feels.  Financial problems happen all the time. No matter what you do something out of the ordinary happens and you find yourself in a hole. You dig and dig to try and get out of the hole but it just gets worse and worse. You pray for a miracle and it never materializes. By this point you are in so deep you get depressed.  What I want to say is there is help out there. I know that it is hard and you are embarrassed but, when you are in a hole help is what you need.  In the UK you can call StepChange which is a charitable organization to help those in debt. They are there to find the right solution for you. Don't let money worries send you into such a shame spiral that you don't see any other way out. Please ask for help.

To all "ugly" single ladies

*Note in this post I am naming celebrities but I do not know them. I am using them as examples of "typically" beautiful people. I don't know if they would date someone who looked like me. I can honestly say, and I have been open about this, I have body image issues. I make no hidden fact about this. Some people out there think that if you look like I do and are single at my age you should be grateful for what comes your way in the love department. THIS IS NOT TRUE!!!!!! You may not be a "typical" beauty but you can have a beauty that transcends looks. I do not mean your internal body parts but your personality.  One of my favorite quotes comes to mind from Criminal Minds when Garcia says to Morgan "I'm not the girl men see across a smokey bar and write songs about". This for me brings in the idea the gorgeous men like Shemar Moore would go for women who look like Kristen Vagueness. It is something that we have to live with every day. I mean I would

Neurodiverse Language Evolution!

 So, I have seen this term batted around social media, in the street, and used by people who do not really understand what Neurodiversity is. The term that I am talking about is Neuro Divergent. So let me give you the download for this term. Neurodiversity covers a wide range of conditions including Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, Dyscalculia, Dysgraphia, and Autism to name a few. (the notable point is that under the term autism many other conditions exist like Aspergers). Those who do not have a Neuro Diverse condition are called Neuro Typical. Neuro Diversity is simply people whose brains think differently. If you are of a certain age you will remember Rain Man and if your not of my age you would think about shows like The Good Doctor which emphasizes neurodiversity. The "normal" term for those people with any one of these conditions is neurodiverse or neurodiversity. However, as we have seen in all facets language changes. An example of this is the Q being added to the LGBTQ acronym.

Advertising

Hi all, Once my Adsense account has been set up I will be using my blog to advertise in the hopes that I will be able to make some more cash.  I doubt it will be set up before I get to Christmas but right now I am seriously struggling so if you would like anything advertised through Adsense please let me know. If you would like me to just do a blog post advertising something and not use AdSense it will be a one-off payment of £25.00. If you would like this then please email me at sfpersonalphone@gmail.com.  Also offering any company/organization a review option. If you would like me to review a product for my blog I will gladly do so. If you would like to have your product reviewed it will only cost you £50.00 for the review and obviously, the product needs to come to me as well. This can be a product or an online game as well as a website. Please email me if you would like to set up a review. The email would be sfpersonalphone@gmail.com. Thanks

Body Beautiful

Hi all If you are struggling with body image, I would like to say that you should all watch Ru Pauls Drag Race. I have had body image issues for years. I believe that part of this is because the LGBT community had not recognized Gender Fluid. Growing up I was never feeling completely like a tomboy or a girly girl. In the 80s and 90s, you were either a girly girl or a tomboy. I would feel more masculine one day and more feminine the other day. There were days I was dressed up like a boy and other days I was wearing dresses. Some days I wanted to fix my hair and makeup and look pretty and other days I would just want to run around climb trees and play with the boys. I never understood why this was. So, I had a lot of body issues. On the days where I felt girly, I hated my size. I was a UK size 12 and maybe 11 stone and just felt fat. Other days I would hate myself because I was not muscly and strong and I felt weak. This has led me into adulthood where I still hate the way my body is for