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Autism Literalness

Autism is a funny thing. We can be very literal in what we do and in how we communicate. I have been doing an online course that I found during the second lockdown in the UK. I was starting to go out of my mind, so I had to find something to keep me from going insane. However, this course has caused me to have flashbacks to school and literalness issues. Being undiagnosed autistic, I had many many issues with teachers. They would say “answer this question” so I would answer the question and get yelled at for not showing my work. My answer to this would always be “you didn’t ask me to show my working, you just asked me to answer the question”. The number of times that I got detention for this argument is unbelievable. However, now as an adult and knowing that I am autistic, I take this in a different way. Some of the feedback on the assessments I had was “This is a good start, could you please expand on your answer”. I answered the question, but they needed more explanation. Now,

Autism Mind Blow

 A couple of days ago I wrote a blog post, which was two parts, thanking celebrities for their roles in my life. Being diagnosed as autistic at the age of 31 is hard. I didn’t get the support that other people with autism get and coming from a low-income family and no friends the only thing I had going in my life was television. Books were not my friend as I was also undiagnosed dyslexic and struggled with reading dramatically. I learned from television so, what you would consider well-known concepts I had to learn from television. Therefore, I decided to write the post because I really do not think celebrities know how much they can impact someone like myself. Even today I watch shows and learn from them, whilst I do have friends now, television has become a big part of my life.   So, as an adult, the thing that I am learning from shows is acceptance of who I am. So, when I posted the first blog, I tagged the celebrities I mentioned in it on Twitter. I was not expecting any form

Legal Representation is a Necessity

Whether you like or dislike Judge Judy you can not deny that she makes a hell of a lot of sense. I just watched an episode where a woman was suing her ex-husband for ½ the cost of her son’s legal fees because he got into legal trouble. Judge Judy said to the father that he was responsible for ½ the cost for the following reasons: If a child support order is put in place and you pay X amount of dollars for necessaries that is good. When child support is fixed it is not fixed with the view that the child will get into trouble. Legal representation is necessary.  If the parents can pay for legal representation, then they should pay for the lawyer. If the parents can not afford to pay for a lawyer, then they can have a “free” lawyer. The lawyer is free to the parents but, they are paid via taxpayer money. The parting words to the parents were to make the kid get a job and pay them back. Thankfully the mum said that she had already done this. This was music to my ears. In the UK we ha

Gender Inequalities in Law

************************************* WARNING   This post is going to cover issues relating to the topic of rape. If you have been a victim of rape this post could potentially trigger you. If this could be the case, please do not read this particular post. ************************************** After witnessing an argument on social media about this topic I felt compelled to write this post. To any right-wing feminists who do not agree I don't care. Gender Inequality is not a uniquely women problem so if you have an issue with this post - deal with it. I know there are many feminists out there who claim that the world is not fair and equal for women. It is true there are many things where the gender divide is an issue. There is one particular issue however that is unequal down the gender lines and that is the issue of rape. Whilst yes, there are many inequalities in this topic for women, you can not hide the fact there are inequalities against men as well. So, what is

How Celebrities impact this Autistic Persons Life Part 2

Yesterday I wrote about actors and actresses that helped this autistic person develop into who I am. So today I am going to write about further actors and actresses who helped me. Pauley Perrett. I want to say thank you for your work as Abby Scuito. Abby was so good at being who she was. She was comfortable in her personality and her values. This always reminds me to be accepting of my difficulties. When I get into what I call Autism Crazy mode  I can feel rather negative about myself, but then I remember Abby Scuito and I start accepting myself again. Cote De Pablo. I want to say thank you for your role as Ziva David. Not only did this character go through many changes in her character's life. She was able to always pick up and move on. She changed her life a couple of times. She also later battled mental health issues which always reminded me to keep up the fight with my own mental health. Scott Bakula. Thank you for your role as Dwayne Pride. Dwayne’s loyalty and pride in

How Celebrities Impacted this Autistic Persons life.

  Celebrities don’t often know how they impact people's lives. I mean they know how the fan clubs and the die-hard fans are impacted but not everyone. So, I wanted to write this post to thank key, influential celebrities who impacted my life. So before I go into the thank you’ let me explain.   Until I was 31 I knew I was different and that I struggled with a lot. I was diagnosed at 31 years old as autistic and that made sense to me. Because I had been undiagnosed and un-supported I took a lot of what I knew about interactions and being a person from television. I often still to this day use what I see on TV to guide my actions and how I interact with people. So here we go: Lucy Lawless. Thank you for your role as Xena Warrior Princess. You impacted my life as you played the Character Xena Warrior Princess. Not only did I take from this show that women can go through tough times but they can survive them. As an abuse survivor from a young age, this was important to me. Later

Surviving Life Part 2

Yesterday I wrote about the conditions and experiences that I had in the first 20 years of my life. That was the dyslexia, autism, and the abuse I suffered. It has not been easy for me. In 2007 I was diagnosed with depression. I do not want to go into the details around it but let's just say that it was as a result of work. I was in a bad way. I took a penknife to my hand. That is how low that I got. Depression has been an ongoing battle since then however, I am now more in control of it. With depression I want to say, you can master it. You may never be completely free of it; however, you can conquer it. I am able to spot triggers within my own body and try and take corrective steps to avoid a full-blown depressive episode. I am not able to always beat it, but it is something that I would be able to have a fighting chance. June 2017 the Grenfell Tower Fire happened. I spent some time helping out at the pop-up centers. There were kids on the estate I lived on so I talked to t